I went and saw this movie tonight. Let me tell you that this would have saved me a lot of heartache if I had a clue about this concept years ago. Mostly applying to dating situations, the basic premise is this: if a guy does not call you, ask you out, make time to see you, ask to meet your friends, or generally does not make you a very important part of his life, then he's just not that into you.
Plain and simple.
It's really that easy.
Men are not complicated like some ladies think they are, and we (ladies) should not make excuses for why they don't call, show up, ask us out, or genuinely show an avid interest in us.
It feels liberating to know that I'm not the only one who has wondered why a guy didn't really seem that interested, whether up front or over time. And you know what, it's okay, because it doesn't mean something is wrong with me. It just means that I can free myself up to be ready for the guy that is into me - whenever that may be.
Rating: Five Star
I was thinking about this and felt almost stereotyped. But I am not sure why. I would like to think that if I was interested in a girl my intentions would be loud and clear, but thinking about it not anymore. After going through hell and back I am so careful to let my intentions be put out for fear of being hurt by them again. But even this is not entirely true, being an "S" I am entirely unable to hide my feelings for people, good or bad.
Two instances come to mind, one I was attracted to this gal, mostly because of all the attention she was giving me. It was honestly hard not to reciprocate those emotions, as it had been so long since someone cared about me. It eventually took me being verbally blunt and physically distant to communicate with her that it was not meant to be. There is another girl, a friend and former coworker that I could tell was crushing on me. This time before any negative results could come about I firmly and verbally communicated to her that my intentions were not for her. Thankfully I still have a friendship with her, albeit from a distance.
Then there is this other girl. I met her again for the first time in years and was completely blown away. I have never met someone so whole and complete. If I ever venture to marry it would be either her, or someone just like her. We had the chance to get together and talk, and from that I found that I really was attracted to her. (for brevity sake I leave out the details why) There is one gigantic problem facing me though... How do you pursue and court a girl that does not live near you? Actually also a secondary problem, I will not be able to support a family (aka get married) until I am done with school and have a job. (read 2-3 years)
Now in response to my friends movie review, how am I supposed to show the appropriate interest in this girl? I would surely love to, in fact I would like to think I would be rather good at making someone feel loved. (Pride I know) However, in my attempt to start something before she left for school herself again, I was unable to secure her phone number, but just permission to communicate over the internet. In fact on further investigation I have found that she does not like even using IM as a communication medium.
Now this is where the devil's advocate comes in, why don't I just email and ask for her phone number? By not asking for the only way to communicate well with her, are you not telling her you are not interested in her? Hmm. charges leveled against me.
Wow... I feel categorized and labeled. The real beauty to this is understanding a guy who is just treading carefully, so as to not do something stupid and ruin everything in the process.
goodness I feel a blog post coming on!
This was my comment on her Facebook page, being too careful can make a man go to slow in the pursuit and loose the girl. Would it not be wise, however, to make sure you are doing the right thing and courting the right person at the right time? I am not sure the answer to that, but one thing I do know... I know I have met and befriended the most amazing Christian woman I have ever met. She was so impressive to me that I added her to my daily prayer list.
I have learned the very hard way to trust God in his leading and guiding. I don't ever want to hold back in following and trusting Him. He has never steered me wrong. I want the very best for this gal, so much that if I am not for her, then more the better that I never get in the way. But if the Lord should grant mercy to me his broken son, then hallelujah! We will just have to see what happens next.
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